Stage Four Cancer; Finding Healing 2017

It’s been 2 years and 9 weeks since being told I have stage four cancer, and that it’s going to kill me, but “we” can keep you comfortable. I named this post “finding healing” because cancer never seems to be gone. Just hiding and taunting you. Even getting good reports leaves me dreading the next one.

How does a stage four cancer caregiver HELP her clients when she herself has stage four cancer?

For me, the last two years has been about serious introspection. The examination of my own mental and emotional processes.  What am I doing to contribute to illness in my body? It’s time to find out.

The moment of being told of my impending demise, coincidently the very same day I reconciled my Mother’s dementia issues, I immediately told my husband, “it’s time for me. I can finally concentrate on helping myself to heal.”

So for two plus years now, that’s my mission.

How am I doing this?

  • Reading
  • Listening
  • Limiting
  • Participating
  • Eating
  • Thinking
  • Nurturing
  • Studying
  • Hoping
  • Praying

Easy?  It’s not. It takes time, energy, discipline, and a conscious WILL. I will go over each of these below. There are many ideas, supplements and suggestions for healing all over the internet.  I’m not saying my way is best, it’s what is working best for me.  You do what you can, but remember that what you put into your  body; food, family, friends can be your medicine.

Reading & Studying

I read books of many kinds. The ones that have helped with the healing and emotional journey are:

  1. You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay; this book has lots of positive affirmations and helps walk you through thinking in a more positive manner. I even had my graphic artist create some positive affirmation cards for my clients.
  2. Wholetones: The Sound of Healing by Michael Tyrrell; This book describes the process and motive for the author to develop his healing frequency music. I also purchased the music.
  3. The Bible of course; At my most vulnerable times I would turn to psalms, particularly Psalm 117:18, I shall not die but live, and proclaim the works of the Lord. Now my husband and I do devotions of many different focuses together.
  4. Anti-cancer, A New Way of Life by David Servan-Schreiber; A good review of diet, nutrition, rest, exercise and general care for the cancer client.
  5. Water & Salt, The Essence of Life, the Healing Power of Nature by Barbara Hendel and Peter Ferreira; This book was of major importance to me since at the time of my diagnosis, I had such a sodium deficiency, my doctor wanted me to either drink gatorade or put me in the hospital. 
  6. Peptide Immunotherapy: Colostrum, A Physician’s Reference Guide by Andrew M Keech; Description from their website: For thousands of years raw colostrum has been consumed to help with all sorts of health challenges. In recent years with the use of modern manufacturing techniques, the benefits of consuming raw colostrum have been preserved in powdered colostrum.
  7. Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely by Lysa TerKeurst; my most recently added book. Whether we like it or not, we all experience being left out of groups of friends, partners, family gatherings and more. This has helped me put things in perspective.

Listening

  1. Wholetones Music; Using frequencies in music to heal.
  2. You Tube Healing Videos; Just do a search for healing music. Here are two that I’ve used. Cancer Healing Visualization, and Cells Healing Cancer- Guided Meditation.
  3. Healing Music on Spotify; you can search for healing music here too.

Limiting & Thinking

To me this means limiting anything negative that comes into my life.

  1. Limiting negative relationships; this is hard with family. This applies to friends and colleagues as well. Do the best you can. I once saw a saying:

    If your absence doesn’t affect them, your presence never mattered.

  2. Limiting negative thoughts; quit telling yourself that you are not good enough, or that you “can’t” do this or that. Negative thoughts become ingrained into your mind if you consistently repeat those negativities to yourself. Here is a link to inspirational apps you can get on your phone!
  3. Limiting negative behavior; whether it’s poor choices in food, smoking, drinking, etc., keep telling yourself that you can change. Positive reinforcement increases positive behavior. You can do it!
  4. Limiting your roadblocks; No one can force you to try. Giving up is not an option for me. I tell that to my clients too. I realize that sickness sometimes causes you to want to give up. I believe that consistently trying to overcome that is helpful.

Participating

  1. In your own health care. You are in charge. You “hire” your doctor. If you disagree with something, say so!
  2. In your own nutritional prep. Making your own smoothies, meals, putting together your own supplement trays, etc.
  3. In your own learning. Pay attention to health information. It’s everywhere on social media and on the internet.
  4. In your own “self care.” You know what you need. Look for it. Get massages, or ask for gift certificates for them if you can’t afford it. Or if you have a skill, maybe you can barter. Use essential oils, etc.

Eating

Nutritious food: non-GMO, organic when possible, non processed or boxed foods. Having fruits and/or veggies with every meal, less sugar, whole grains, organic meats and dairy. As a Digestive Health Specialist, I don’t advocate for specialty diets. The only one I am in favor of is the Macronutrient Plan. It’s good carbs, protein and fats. If you find relief with a gluten free diet, I am not one to argue with you. You know what makes you feel healthy.

Hoping & Praying

Or praying for hope. Prayer is a big part of my life. If I’m going to share all of my ammunition, this has got to be my biggest gun. It might not be yours, but that’s your business. My favorite scripture is

Psalm 118:17; I shall not die but live, and proclaim the works of the Lord.

That’s been my favorite since 2007, when I was first diagnosed. You can imagine my excitement when Darlene Zschech wrote the song “In Jesus’ Name” with reference to Psalm 118:17.

Here it is: In Jesus’ Name by Darlene Zschech

 

In Summary

Healing is multifaceted. Emotional, Nutritional (chemical) and Structural (physical). Exercise can be considered physical and is very important. Fat tissue harbors excess estrogens, which has a negative effect on estrogen dependent cancers.

I’d didn’t spend any time on structural, but I guess you can figure that I would recommend chiropractic care in addition to everything else. The things I encourage you to do are to not give up, spend some time researching your options and researching everything that your Dr suggests before making drastic decisions, and be as consistent as you can.

Care for yourself as much as you’d care for the people you love…

Sue

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